Marina On Air

In the text about if it is possible to be a perfect mother and at the same time an outstanding professional, I said I would be back to the topic. Not only because this was a very hard thing for me, leaving me guilty for not being “a good mama” for my daughter, but also because I see it is a topic that still concerns mothers all around the globe. Recently I was sitting at a table surrounded by wonderful engaged women and suddenly I heard some of them talking about single motherhood. And how hard and tough are the demands of society on single mothers. Even worse when single working mothers. Then I mentioned what I wrote here in my blog, which was a big dilemma for a long time in my life. I told these enlightened women that I no longer felt guilty because now I knew I did the best that I could at every moment of my life. I knew I might have failed in some moments as a mother, in other as a professional, but I was aware, I had done all I could. One of the women, also a single ...

Women play several roles in life: mother, housewife, professional, partner, wife – just to mention some. And society demands that we, women, be 100% good in everything we do. I say it is not possible to be 100% good in every role we have in life. And I say that based on my own experience as a single mother with a professional life.  When you are the only bread winner, your mind is focused on getting the money to pay the bills and provide the basics to your child. You must do your job very well, because you can not run the risk to lose it. You ought to do it outstanding, because you may be seen and even get acknowledged to a better position – which may mean more money and a less tight budget in the end of the month. It may seem weird, but spend most of your time apart from your child because you are thinking of your child. And where is your child when you are working? In the parallel world, your child is being cared either by a day school, of by your mother, or a neighbor t...